| Thought of the day – 12 Tough Truths that Help You Grow | ||
| As you look back on your life, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen. Because sometimes the truths you can’t change, end up changing you and helping you grow.
Here are twelve such truths… 1. Everything is as it should be. It’s crazy how you always end up where you’re meant to be – how even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons that you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place. 2. Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your true self. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don’t want. Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret. Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare. Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it. Read Awaken the Giant Within 3. It’s usually the deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your full potential. It’s the scary, stressful choices that end up beingthe most worthwhile. Without pain, there would be no change. But remember, pain, just like everything in life, is meant to be learned from and then released. 4. One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. If you catch yourself in a cycle of trying to change someone, or defending yourself again someone who is trying to change you, walk away. But if you are pursuing a dream, take another step. And don’t forget that sometimes this step will involve modifying your dream, or planning a new one – it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream. 5. You have to take care of yourself first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness, it’s called personal development. Once you balance yourself, only then can you balance the world around you. Read Psycho-Cybernetics 6. One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself, can you own yourself. 7. You may need to be single for awhile before you realize that, although the co-owned belongings from your failed relationships might not have been divided equally, the issues that destroyed the relationships likely were. For how can you stand confidently alone, or see the same issues arising in your newest relationship, and not realize which broken pieces belong to you? Owning your issues, and dealing with them, will make you far happier in the long run, than owning anything else in this world. 8. The only thing you can absolutely control is how you react to things out of your control. The more you can adapt to the situations in life, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows in your life. Put most simply: being at peace means being in a state of complete acceptance of all that is, right here, right now. 9. Some people will lie to you. Remember, an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth, which will help you measure the true quality of your relationship in the long-term. 10. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. If you are thankful for what you do have, you will end up having even more. Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold; happiness dwells in the soul. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. When you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away. Read The Happiness Project 11. Yes, you have failed in the past. But don’t judge yourself by your past, you don’t live there anymore. Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday. You can turn it all around in the blink of an eye by making a simple choice to stand back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again. 12. Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and you may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine. Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again. Source: http://www.marcandangel.com/2012/07/20/12-tough-truths-that-help-you-grow/ |
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| Joke of the day | ||
| I was rear-ended by a car this morning…right then I knew it was going to be a really bad day! When the driver got out of his car, I realized he was a dwarf as were the other people in his car. He looked up at me and said, "I am not happy!" So I said, "Well, which one are you then?" That’s how the fight started. | ||
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Month: February 2013
.DWD: “The way we choose to see the world creates the world we see.” -Barry Neil Kaufman
| Thought of the day – The Way We See Our World |
| The way we see the world is very much the way we see ourselves. What we think of ourselves we also think of the world. You see, everything that you have thought, you have portrayed into the world. It is a self-prophesying ritual that you complete day in and day out. And everyone else around you, everyone else in the world also does the same. Amazing, huh! All these thoughts, beliefs and presumptions are portraying the world that we are seeing every day. What does your world look like? Let me tell you, it’s not like mine or anyone else’s around you. No matter how similar our experiences may be, you will always see what you see, and I will always interpret it the way I see it. One situation can have many different explanations or meanings placed on it.A situation is just that, something that is occurring, but we give it meaning, I give it mine, you give it yours. For example, take a football match, 2 teams playing, one team winning. You can believe that it is the worst game you have ever seen, if your team is being beat. i on the other hand can look at it and be ecstatic because my team has scored another goal! Same game, two different scenarios being created in our minds. It is not the game that is different, it is the way we see it. If you supported the team that is winning at the moment, then you too would be ecstatic! Everything in our life is neutral, we experience it the way we want to. We do have a choice. We always have a choice, but many times we do not see the space that is giving us that power to choose. That space is the present moment. At this moment you can stop, you can breathe and really discover where you are placing ideas and concepts onto something that is outside of you. Something that is playing out on the screen that we call Life, that we then attach our feelings to. We get mixed into the story we are creating. The story that is building, as we add the glue, ie. the thoughts, that then keep us stuck and unable to disconnect from the illusion that we create. The story is happening, but it is outside of you. Look at it, see it for what it is. Detach. Breathe. And then give it the meaning that you can learn from. It is just a story. How many stories have you lived through, and spent time in before? What if you chose to no longer become trapped in the web that you have spun? How much time and energy would that free up in your life? How free would you be? |
| Joke of the day |
| I once visited my friend at his house and found him raging with fury. I asked what’s wrong and he started introducing his family: This is my wife, I call her GOOGLE: Ask her one question and you’ll receive 10 answers. This is my son, I call him FACEBOOK, he publicizes our family matters to the whole World. And this is my daughter, I call her TWITTER, boys of our entire city keep following her! I did, that day, truly empathize with him. |
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DWD: “A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.” -Hugh Downs
| Thought of the day – The donkey | ||
| One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
Moral: Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up. Remember the five simple rules to be happy: 1. Free your heart from hatred – Forgive. 2. Free your mind from worries – Most never happen. 3. Live simply and appreciate what you have. 4. Give more. 5. Expect less |
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| Funny one liners:
1. Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband. 2. I believe we should all pay our tax with a smile. I tried – but they wanted cash. 3. Don’t marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without, but whatever you do, you’ll regret it later. 4. Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired. 5. My wife and I always compromise. I admit I’m wrong and she agrees with me. 6. Saving is the best thing. Especially when your parents have done it for you. 7. Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books. |
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DWD: “The key to any game is to use your strengths and hide your weaknesses.” – Paul Westphal
| Thought of the day – Using strengths to overcome weakness | ||
| How does a ‘lower ability’ student become the world’s most well-known entrepreneurial billionaire?
Richard Branson, one of the world’s most successful billionaires, has Dyslexia. His poor literacy skills drove him to drop out of school at age 15. Branson believed he was no good at school, with the exception of sport. His natural talent for Cricket and Football saw him become captain of his school teams. In the process of utilizing the only strength he knew (sport) he inadvertently discovered another which later proved far more useful. His experiences captaining school sporting teams lead Branson to discover and develop his abilities to deeply understand and lead people – a strength he later attributed to being the most important factor for business success. When potential is awakened, dreams become real.. We all know our children have more potential than they are yet to realize. Our team’s goal and passion is to support our client’s families in the expedition to discover and develop their children’s progress towards realising and exercising their full genetic potential. Step 1: Identify existing strengths: The first step is to explore and identify your child’s existing strengths. With your assistance, your Tutor will evaluate what your child does well at and feels confident with to establish a starting point to direct progress. Step 2: Use existing strengths to overcome weaknesses: Learning is like exercise. Weak muscles are only weak if they are yet to be strengthened. The best study workout is one that targets weakness by making use of strengths. We strategically utilize those strengths to stretch out whilst unearthing and solidifying new stepping stones of progress previously hidden under weeds of fear and inexperience ( misinterpreted as ‘weaknesses’). Step 3: Support progress by building strength on strength: Whilst directing your child’s learning to stretch out and uncover new strengths, we must also build them progressively by arranging scattered stepping stones to construct a strong staircase of achievement. Step 4: Use new confidence to drive motivation: The higher your son or daughters progress climbs, the brighter their confidence will shine and reflect in their attitudes to academic success. When this happens, your child will have the drive and momentum we can apply to power their positive cycles with full force and autonomy in the direction of expanding, realizing and functioning at their full genetic potential. |
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| Joke of the day | ||
| A little girl came home from school and said to her mother, “Mommy, today in school I was punished for something that I didn’t do.” The mother exclaimed, “But that’s terrible! I’m going to have a talk with your teacher about this … by the way, what was it that you didn’t do?” The little girl replied, “My homework.” | ||
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Regards, |
DWD: “The results you achieve will be in direct proportion to the effort you apply.” – Denis Waitley
| Thought of the day – Every success story is also a story of great failure | ||
| Failure is the highway to success. Tom Watson Sr. said, "If you want to succeed, double your failure rate." If you study history, you will find that all stories of success are also stories of great failures. But people don’t see the failures. They only see one side of the picture and they say that person got lucky: "He must have been at the right place at the right time."
Let me share someone’s life history with you. This was a man who failed in business at the age of 21 ; was defeated in a legislative race at age 22; failed again in business at age 24; overcame the death of his sweetheart at age 26; had a nervous breakdown at age 27; lost a congressional race at age 34; lost a senatorial race at age 45; failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47; lost a senatorial race at age 49; and was elected president of the United States at age 52. This man was Abraham Lincoln. Would you call him a failure? He could have quit. But to Lincoln, defeat was a detour and not a dead end. In 1913, Lee De Forest, inventor of the triodes tube, was charged by the district attorney for using fraudulent means to mislead the public into buying stocks of his company by claiming that he could transmit the human voice across the Atlantic. He was publicly humiliated. Can you imagine where we would be without his invention? A New York Times editorial on December 10, 1903, questioned the wisdom of the Wright Brothers who were trying to invent a machine, heavier than air, that would fly. One week later, at Kitty Hawk, the Wright Brothers took their famous flight. Colonel Sanders, at age 65, with a beat-up car and a $100 check from Social Security, realized he had to do something. He remembered his mother’s recipe and went out selling. How many doors did he have to knock on before he got his first order? It is estimated that he had knocked on more than a thousand doors before he got his first order. How many of us quit after three tries, ten tries, a hundred tries, and then we say we tried as hard as we could? As a young cartoonist, Walt Disney faced many rejections from newspaper editors, who said he had no talent. One day a minister at a church hired him to draw some cartoons. Disney was working out of a small mouse infested shed near the church. After seeing a small mouse, he was inspired. That was the start of Mickey Mouse. Successful people don’t do great things, they only do small things in a great way. One day a partially deaf four year old kid came home with a note in his pocket from his teacher, "Your Tommy is too stupid to learn, get him out of the school." His mother read the note and answered, "My Tommy is not stupid to learn, I will teach him myself." And that Tommy grew up to be the great Thomas Edison. Thomas Edison had only three months of formal schooling and he was partially deaf. Henry Ford forgot to put the reverse gear in the first car he made. Do you consider these people failures? They succeeded in spite of problems, not in the absence of them. But to the outside world, it appears as though they just got lucky. All success stories are stories of great failures. The only difference is that every time they failed, they bounced back. This is called failing forward, rather than backward. You learn and move forward. Learn from your failure and keep moving. Source: http://great-motivational-stories.blogspot.in/2008/03/every-success-story-is-also-story-of.html |
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| Joke of the day | ||
| Student: What’s infinity? Math Teacher: Think of a number. Student: Okay, I’ve got one. Teacher: Good. That’s not it. |
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DWD: “Your life, take chances,be crazy. Don’t wait cause right now is the oldest you’ve ever been and the youngest you’ll ever be.” – Will Smith
| Thought of the day – Deal Better with Hard Times | ||
| Write It Out
Did you ever write a nasty e-mail when you felt angry but then deleted it? Chances are you still felt better though you didn’t send it. If you’ve suffered an upsetting event, writing about it can actually make you feel better. That’s in part because writing organizes your thoughts, which makes the experience feels less chaotic. Writing also can offer you an emotional release, insight into yourself and the feeling that you can file the problem away. Some thoughts to get started writing: · Set aside 15 minutes a day for a few days to write about the event and how it made you feel · Don’t worry about grammar or artistry. This is just for you. · Stick with it. At first writing about an upsetting experience may be painful, but over time it can help you get past the upset.. Tackle Your Problems If you’re dealing with a stressful situation, don’t stew in self-pity or waste energy pointing blame at someone else. That just makes you feel less powerful. Instead, it makes sense to: · Write down the problems involved. On paper they may seem more manageable than swirling in your head. · List as many solutions as possible. For now, silence your internal judge. You can reject options later. · Assess your list. Try asking yourself how you’d like this situation to end. Which options likely will get you there? You also can weigh pros and cons. · Accept reasonably good solutions. Research suggests that searching for a perfect option breeds disappointment. · Once you pick some solutions, break them into reasonable chunks and make a concrete plan. You might set yourself some specific deadlines too. · Don’t get discouraged if the first solution you try doesn’t pan out. Try another one on your list. You can read more problem-solving tips and find a worksheet to get you organized http://www.heretohelp.bc.ca/skills/module4.
How you think about a problem affects both how much it upsets you and how well you tackle it. I possible, it pays to shift your mind away from negative thoughts or excessive worries. Try these suggestions: · Ask yourself how realistic your worry is. Our imaginations can take us into situations that may never develop. · Set aside "worry" time each day. Then whenever a negative thought intrudes, tell yourself to wait until the set time. You may feel better by then. · Focus on the good aspects of your life. · Look at tough times as an opportunity to learn, grow or improve your situation. Maybe you’ve seen how supportive your friends are or learned how strong you can be in a tough time. For more suggestions on reframing your thoughts, see the Live Your Life Well Stay Positive tool. Get Support Sometimes some basic help can make a big difference. · Ask someone to give you a hand with any pressing tasks if you’re overextended. You can reciprocate at a quieter time. · Don’t be afraid to ask for advice. No one knows everything. · Get emotional support. Crying, sharing your frustrations or otherwise venting can release tension, relieve stress and help you move on. Consider getting professional help if you need it. Source: http://www.liveyourlifewell.org/go/live-your-life-well/deal |
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| “Do you believe in life after death?” the boss asked one of his employees.
“Yes, Sir,” the new employee replied. “Well, then, that makes everything just fine,” the boss went on. “After you left early yesterday to go to your grandmother’s funeral, she stopped in to see you.” |
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DWD: “orever is composed of nows.”-Emily Dickinson
DWD: “Growing up happens when you start having things you look back on and wish you could change” -Clary Fray
| Thought of the day – An 87 Year Old College Student Named Rose | ||
| The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned round to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids…" "No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age. "I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!" she told me. After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months, we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me. Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up. At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, "I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know."
As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it! There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets." She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose." She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year’s end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago. One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be . Remember, growing older is mandatory. Growing up is optional. We make a living by what we get, we make a life by what we give. |
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DWD: “Look at life through the windshield, not the rear view mirror.” -Byrd Baggett
| Thought of the day – Life is About Choices and the Decisions We Make | ||
| Prepare to face the challenges. A past left unresolved will continue to haunt you if you don’t address the underlying sorrow, pain and anger. You may not want to revisit aspects of what happened in the past but if you don’t, you allow the part of your mind that conceals and glosses over hurts to dominate. And instead of fully comprehending what happened and learning from it, you live in the grip of the past subconsciously and let it eat away at you.
Accept that you cannot change what happened. But, still remember you CAN change your past. You cant change it phsyicaly but you can change it mentally. It is not possible to rewrite the facts of what you experienced and went through. But it is possible to rewrite the way you perceive it and handle it from now onward. If you don’t, your hurt self will carry over this emotional pain into all new experiences and relationships, possibly poisoning them and dooming them to failure without any conscious desire on your behalf. Don’t believe anything someone said to hurt you. Abusers, from the mildest situational bully like an obnoxious supervisor to a bone-breaking abusive parent, do not want you to think well of yourself or question their unjust authority. If they say you’re too independent, that’s because they wanted you to be dependent of their opinion over your own. If they say you’re too sensitive, it means you still have the capacity to feel if it’s true or enough self-respect to reject an insult. If they say you’re too cold, it’s because you’re not gullible enough to fall for their excuses. Compare their insults to what people who like you and hold a high opinion say about you. When both groups agree, it’s probably true about you but that doesn’t always make it bad. This kind of sorting can take some time and introspection. It’s deep healing. Start it by making a list of the things you like about yourself, to separate your feelings from your detractors. You may find some traits on both lists, accept them as part of yourself. You may find some of their insults are just flat lies. It’s common for bullies and abusers to lie to keep people emotionally dependent on their good opinion. Often they project their flaws, which you might not share. A personal journal is good for this, followed by discussing your observations with a trusted friend or therapist who has a high opinion of you. Be grateful for friends who support you and will always be there for you. Don’t upset yourself by thinking about people who did not respect and appreciate you. Let go. Acknowledge that you’re living in real time carrying the baggage of old time. And then let go of it. Are you playing out a past habit in a current relationship? Does your fear of anger, loss, raised voices, silence etc. now set the tone for how you relate to others? This requires careful consideration to untwist the tendrils of who you really are and what experiences from childhood onward shaped how you react to situations. Most of us feel a deep inner core of who we are at our best. And we are all capable of separating the emotional triggers from the solid core of self if we sit still long enough to tease apart that what triggers our habitual behavior and seek that which is truly what we believe ourselves capable of being
Remove the past from your future. This simply means that you must learn to stop letting past experience controlling you. This happens when you have a bad experience and you let it continue. In this case, instead of thinking positively and remembering the means by which you ultimately overcame prior negative challenges, your immediate, habitual reaction is to transfer the bad outcomes from that former experience to a current situation, assuming the worse case scenario for your current experience, with full-blown expectations that things will only be bad. And with that comes the habitual reactions, on cue, rather than a series of chosen proactive actions defined by you as the person you are now. Create a positive future. Combine the knowledge that you cannot change the past with the knowledge that you cannot predict the future but you can make sure that the person you are right now is strong, whole and healthy emotionally, so that any future negative scenarios are something the person you are now can definitely cope with, no matter what gets thrown at you. This is really about taking responsibility for yourself and how you react. Once you have faced the challenges from your past and accept that while you cannot change the past, you can cease to let it be role-played out every time a new challenge arises, you are beginning to remove the fear of more bad things happening as directed by your past experiences. Instead, you now learn to embrace the reality that the future is as yet unwritten and if you want it to be a positive and strong experience, the power lies within you to achieve this. Take it slowly but surely. No overnight transformation will occur when you are trying to move yourself through past habits. It all takes time and you will only achieve the best and soundest results by allowing yourself the time and space to move on. Avoid making rash decisions. While you’re going through the healing process to strengthen your ability to deal with the past in a reasoned and distanced manner, keep aware of the triggers that will send you back to past habits. Actively aim to put a hold on habitual reactions and challenge yourself to do things differently, while at the same time accepting why you need to do this. This also means avoiding making decisions in haste that you may regret later, such as cutting off all ties with somebody in your family, or sending notes filled with vitriol to people, or quitting from something you have been doing. While ultimately some of these outcomes might end up being the path you take after reasoning it with great care, initially this exercise is about strengthening yourself to make calm and enlightened decisions rather than making merry with curses and burning your bridges with no care for tomorrow. You do care about tomorrow – a responsible, thoughtful, and clear future that is free of being controlled by past habit. |
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| Joke of the day | ||
| An 80 year old couple were having problems remembering things, so they decided to go to their doctor to get checked out to make sure nothing was wrong with them. When they arrived at the doctors, they explained to the doctor about the problems they were having with their memory. After checking the couple out, the doctor told them that they were physically okay but might want to start writing things down and make notes to help them remember things. The couple thanked the doctor and left. Later that night while watching TV, the man got up from his chair and his wife asked, "Where are you going?" He replied, "To the kitchen." She asked, "Will you get me a bowl of ice cream?" He replied, "Sure." She then asked him, "Don’t you think you should write it down so you can remember it?" He said, "No, I can remember that." She then said, "Well I would also like some strawberries on top. You had better write that down because I know you’ll forget that." He said, "I can remember that, you want a bowl of ice cream with strawberries." She replied, "Well I also would like whipped cream on top. I know you will forget that so you better write it down." With irritation in his voice, he said, "I don’t need to write that down! I can remember that." He then fumes into the kitchen. After about 20 minutes he returned from the kitchen and handed her a plate of bacon and eggs. She stared at the plate for a moment and said angrily: "I TOLD you to write it down! You forgot my TOAST!" | ||
| Have a great day!
Regards, Prasanna |
“Our choices are what make us who we are. We always have the choice to do what’s right.” – In movie Spiderman 3
| Thought of the day – Life is About Choices and the Decisions We Make | ||
| Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading to defeat and disappointment.
Just like any road, there are corners, detours, and crossroads in life. Perhaps the most perplexing road that you would encounter is a crossroad. With four roads to choose from and with limited knowledge on where they would go, which road will you take? What is the guarantee that we would choose the right one along the way? Would you take any road, or just stay where you are: in front of a crossroad?
There are no guarantees. You do not really know where a road will lead you until you take it. There are no guarantees. This is one of the most important things you need to realize about life. Nobody said that choosing to do the right thing all the time would always lead you to happiness. Loving someone with all your heart does not guarantee that it would be returned. Gaining fame and fortune does not guarantee happiness. Accepting a good word from an influential superior to cut your trip short up the career ladder is not always bad, especially if you are highly qualified and competent. There are too many possible outcomes, which you’re really cannot control. The only thing you have power over is the decisions that you will make, and how you would act and react to different situations. Wrong decisions are always at hindsight. Had you known that you were making a wrong decision, would you have gone along with it? Perhaps not, why would you choose a certain path when you know it would get you lost? Why make a certain decision if you knew from the very beginning that it is not the right one. It is only after you have made a decision and reflected on it that you realize its soundness. If the consequences or outcomes are good for you, then you have decided correctly. Otherwise, your decision was wrong. Take the risk: Decide. Since life offers no guarantee and you would never know that your decision would be wrong until you have made it, then you might as well take the risk and decide. It is definitely better than keeping yourself in limbo. Although it is true that one wrong turn could get you lost, it could also be that such a turn could be an opportunity for an adventure, moreover open more roads. It is all a matter of perspective. You have the choice between being a lost traveller or an accidental tourist of life. But take caution that you do not make decisions haphazardly. Taking risks is not about being careless and stupid.
Here are some pointers that could help you choose the best option in the face of life’s crossroads: Get as many information as you can about your situation. Identify and create options. What options do the situation give you? Sometimes the options are few, but sometimes they are numerous. But what do you do when you think that the situation offers no options? This is the time that you create your own. Make your creative mind work. From the most simplistic to the most complicated, entertain all ideas. Do not shoot anything down when an idea comes to your head. Sometimes the most outrageous idea could prove to be the right one in the end. You can ask a friend to help you identify options and even make more options if you encounter some difficulty, but make sure that you make the decision yourself in the end. Weigh the pros and cons of every option. Trust yourself and make that decision. Now that you have assessed your options, it is now time to trust yourself. Remember that there are no guarantees and wrong decisions are always at hindsight. So choose… decide… believe that you are choosing the best option at this point in time. Now that you have made a decision, be ready to face its consequences: good and bad. It may take you to a place of promise or to a land of problems. But the important thing is that you have chosen to live your life instead of remaining a bystander or a passive audience to your own life. Whether it is the right decision or not, only time can tell. But do not regret it whatever the outcome. Instead, learn from it and remember that you always have the chance to make better decisions in the future. |
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| Joke of the day | ||
| Wife : Do you want dinner? Husband: Sure, what are my choices? Wife :Yes and no. |
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| Have a great day!
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