|Thought of the day – 12 Tough Truths that Help You Grow|
|As you look back on your life, you will often realize that many of the times you thought you were being rejected from something good, you were in fact being redirected to something better. You can’t control everything. Sometimes you just need to relax and have faith that things will work out. Let go a little and just let life happen. Because sometimes the truths you can’t change, end up changing you and helping you grow.
Here are twelve such truths…
1. Everything is as it should be. It’s crazy how you always end up where you’re meant to be – how even the most tragic and stressful situations eventually teach you important lessons that you never dreamed you were going to learn. Remember, oftentimes when things are falling apart, they are actually falling into place.
2. Not until you are lost in this world can you begin to find your true self. Realizing you are lost is the first step to living the life you want. The second step is leaving the life you don’t want. Making a big life change is pretty scary. But you know what’s even scarier? Regret. Vision without action is a daydream, and action without vision is a nightmare. Your heart is free, have the courage to follow it. Read Awaken the Giant Within.
3. It’s usually the deepest pain which empowers you to grow to your full potential. It’s the scary, stressful choices that end up beingthe most worthwhile. Without pain, there would be no change. But remember, pain, just like everything in life, is meant to be learned from and then released.
4. One of the hardest decisions you will ever face in life is choosing whether to walk away or take another step forward. If you catch yourself in a cycle of trying to change someone, or defending yourself again someone who is trying to change you, walk away. But if you are pursuing a dream, take another step. And don’t forget that sometimes this step will involve modifying your dream, or planning a new one – it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream.
5. You have to take care of yourself first. Before befriending others, you have to be your own friend. Before correcting others, you have to correct yourself. Before making others happy, you have to make yourself happy. It’s not called selfishness, it’s called personal development. Once you balance yourself, only then can you balance the world around you. Read Psycho-Cybernetics.
6. One of the greatest freedoms is truly not caring what everyone else thinks of you. As long as you are worried about what others think of you, you are owned by them. Only when you require no approval from outside yourself, can you own yourself.
7. You may need to be single for awhile before you realize that, although the co-owned belongings from your failed relationships might not have been divided equally, the issues that destroyed the relationships likely were. For how can you stand confidently alone, or see the same issues arising in your newest relationship, and not realize which broken pieces belong to you? Owning your issues, and dealing with them, will make you far happier in the long run, than owning anything else in this world.
8. The only thing you can absolutely control is how you react to things out of your control. The more you can adapt to the situations in life, the more powerful your highs will be, and the more quickly you’ll be able to bounce back from the lows in your life. Put most simply: being at peace means being in a state of complete acceptance of all that is, right here, right now.
9. Some people will lie to you. Remember, an honest enemy is better than a friend who lies. Pay less attention to what people say, and more attention to what they do. Their actions will show you the truth, which will help you measure the true quality of your relationship in the long-term.
10. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never have enough. If you are thankful for what you do have, you will end up having even more. Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold; happiness dwells in the soul. Abundance is not about how much you have, it’s how you feel about what you have. When you take things for granted, your happiness gets taken away. Read The Happiness Project.
11. Yes, you have failed in the past. But don’t judge yourself by your past, you don’t live there anymore. Just because you’re not where you want to be today doesn’t mean you won’t be there someday. You can turn it all around in the blink of an eye by making a simple choice to stand back up – to try again, to love again, to live again, and to dream again.
12. Everything is going to be alright; maybe not today, but eventually. There will be times when it seems like everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong. And you might feel like you will be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. Sure the sun stops shining sometimes, and you may get a huge thunderstorm or two, but eventually the sun will come out to shine. Sometimes it’s just a matter of us staying as positive as possible in order to make it to see the sunshine break through the clouds again.
|Joke of the day|
|I was rear-ended by a car this morning…right then I knew it was going to be a really bad day! When the driver got out of his car, I realized he was a dwarf as were the other people in his car. He looked up at me and said, "I am not happy!" So I said, "Well, which one are you then?" That’s how the fight started.|
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|Thought of the day – The Way We See Our World|
|The way we see the world is very much the way we see ourselves. What we think of ourselves we also think of the world. You see, everything that you have thought, you have portrayed into the world. It is a self-prophesying ritual that you complete day in and day out. And everyone else around you, everyone else in the world also does the same. Amazing, huh! All these thoughts, beliefs and presumptions are portraying the world that we are seeing every day. What does your world look like? Let me tell you, it’s not like mine or anyone else’s around you. No matter how similar our experiences may be, you will always see what you see, and I will always interpret it the way I see it. One situation can have many different explanations or meanings placed on it.A situation is just that, something that is occurring, but we give it meaning, I give it mine, you give it yours. For example, take a football match, 2 teams playing, one team winning. You can believe that it is the worst game you have ever seen, if your team is being beat. i on the other hand can look at it and be ecstatic because my team has scored another goal! Same game, two different scenarios being created in our minds. It is not the game that is different, it is the way we see it. If you supported the team that is winning at the moment, then you too would be ecstatic! Everything in our life is neutral, we experience it the way we want to. We do have a choice. We always have a choice, but many times we do not see the space that is giving us that power to choose. That space is the present moment. At this moment you can stop, you can breathe and really discover where you are placing ideas and concepts onto something that is outside of you. Something that is playing out on the screen that we call Life, that we then attach our feelings to. We get mixed into the story we are creating. The story that is building, as we add the glue, ie. the thoughts, that then keep us stuck and unable to disconnect from the illusion that we create. The story is happening, but it is outside of you. Look at it, see it for what it is. Detach. Breathe. And then give it the meaning that you can learn from. It is just a story. How many stories have you lived through, and spent time in before? What if you chose to no longer become trapped in the web that you have spun? How much time and energy would that free up in your life? How free would you be?|
|Joke of the day|
|I once visited my friend at his house and found him raging with fury. I asked what’s wrong and he started introducing his family: This is my wife, I call her GOOGLE: Ask her one question and you’ll receive 10 answers. This is my son, I call him FACEBOOK, he publicizes our family matters to the whole World. And this is my daughter, I call her TWITTER, boys of our entire city keep following her! I did, that day, truly empathize with him.|
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|Thought of the day – The donkey|
|One day a farmer’s donkey fell down into a well. The animal cried piteously for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do. Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn’t worth it to retrieve the donkey. He invited all his neighbors to come over and help him. They all grabbed a shovel and began to shovel dirt into the well. At first, the donkey realized what was happening and cried horribly. Then, to everyone’s amazement he quieted down. A few shovel loads later, the farmer finally looked down the well. He was astonished at what he saw. With each shovel of dirt that hit his back, the donkey was doing something amazing. He would shake it off and take a step up. As the farmer’s neighbors continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he would shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon, everyone was amazed as the donkey stepped up over the edge of the well and happily trotted off!
Life is going to shovel dirt on you, all kinds of dirt. The trick to getting out of the well is to shake it off and take a step up. Each of our troubles is a steppingstone. We can get out of the deepest wells just by not stopping, never giving up! Shake it off and take a step up.
Remember the five simple rules to be happy:
1. Free your heart from hatred – Forgive.
2. Free your mind from worries – Most never happen.
3. Live simply and appreciate what you have.
4. Give more.
5. Expect less
|Joke of the day|
|Funny one liners:
1. Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband.
2. I believe we should all pay our tax with a smile. I tried – but they wanted cash.
3. Don’t marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without, but whatever you do, you’ll regret it later.
4. Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired.
5. My wife and I always compromise. I admit I’m wrong and she agrees with me.
6. Saving is the best thing. Especially when your parents have done it for you.
7. Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books.
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|Thought of the day – Using strengths to overcome weakness|
|How does a ‘lower ability’ student become the world’s most well-known entrepreneurial billionaire?
Richard Branson, one of the world’s most successful billionaires, has Dyslexia. His poor literacy skills drove him to drop out of school at age 15. Branson believed he was no good at school, with the exception of sport. His natural talent for Cricket and Football saw him become captain of his school teams. In the process of utilizing the only strength he knew (sport) he inadvertently discovered another which later proved far more useful. His experiences captaining school sporting teams lead Branson to discover and develop his abilities to deeply understand and lead people – a strength he later attributed to being the most important factor for business success.
When potential is awakened, dreams become real..
We all know our children have more potential than they are yet to realize. Our team’s goal and passion is to support our client’s families in the expedition to discover and develop their children’s progress towards realising and exercising their full genetic potential.
Step 1: Identify existing strengths:
The first step is to explore and identify your child’s existing strengths. With your assistance, your Tutor will evaluate what your child does well at and feels confident with to establish a starting point to direct progress.
Step 2: Use existing strengths to overcome weaknesses:
Learning is like exercise. Weak muscles are only weak if they are yet to be strengthened. The best study workout is one that targets weakness by making use of strengths. We strategically utilize those strengths to stretch out whilst unearthing and solidifying new stepping stones of progress previously hidden under weeds of fear and inexperience ( misinterpreted as ‘weaknesses’).
Step 3: Support progress by building strength on strength:
Whilst directing your child’s learning to stretch out and uncover new strengths, we must also build them progressively by arranging scattered stepping stones to construct a strong staircase of achievement.
Step 4: Use new confidence to drive motivation:
The higher your son or daughters progress climbs, the brighter their confidence will shine and reflect in their attitudes to academic success. When this happens, your child will have the drive and momentum we can apply to power their positive cycles with full force and autonomy in the direction of expanding, realizing and functioning at their full genetic potential.
|Joke of the day|
|A little girl came home from school and said to her mother, “Mommy, today in school I was punished for something that I didn’t do.” The mother exclaimed, “But that’s terrible! I’m going to have a talk with your teacher about this … by the way, what was it that you didn’t do?” The little girl replied, “My homework.”|
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|Thought of the day – Every success story is also a story of great failure|
|Failure is the highway to success. Tom Watson Sr. said, "If you want to succeed, double your failure rate." If you study history, you will find that all stories of success are also stories of great failures. But people don’t see the failures. They only see one side of the picture and they say that person got lucky: "He must have been at the right place at the right time."
Let me share someone’s life history with you. This was a man who failed in business at the age of 21 ; was defeated in a legislative race at age 22; failed again in business at age 24; overcame the death of his sweetheart at age 26; had a nervous breakdown at age 27; lost a congressional race at age 34; lost a senatorial race at age 45; failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47; lost a senatorial race at age 49; and was elected president of the United States at age 52. This man was Abraham Lincoln. Would you call him a failure? He could have quit. But to Lincoln, defeat was a detour and not a dead end.
In 1913, Lee De Forest, inventor of the triodes tube, was charged by the district attorney for using fraudulent means to mislead the public into buying stocks of his company by claiming that he could transmit the human voice across the Atlantic. He was publicly humiliated. Can you imagine where we would be without his invention?
A New York Times editorial on December 10, 1903, questioned the wisdom of the Wright Brothers who were trying to invent a machine, heavier than air, that would fly. One week later, at Kitty Hawk, the Wright Brothers took their famous flight.
Colonel Sanders, at age 65, with a beat-up car and a $100 check from Social Security, realized he had to do something. He remembered his mother’s recipe and went out selling. How many doors did he have to knock on before he got his first order? It is estimated that he had knocked on more than a thousand doors before he got his first order. How many of us quit after three tries, ten tries, a hundred tries, and then we say we tried as hard as we could?
As a young cartoonist, Walt Disney faced many rejections from newspaper editors, who said he had no talent. One day a minister at a church hired him to draw some cartoons. Disney was working out of a small mouse infested shed near the church. After seeing a small mouse, he was inspired. That was the start of Mickey Mouse.
Successful people don’t do great things, they only do small things in a great way.
One day a partially deaf four year old kid came home with a note in his pocket from his teacher, "Your Tommy is too stupid to learn, get him out of the school." His mother read the note and answered, "My Tommy is not stupid to learn, I will teach him myself." And that Tommy grew up to be the great Thomas Edison. Thomas Edison had only three months of formal schooling and he was partially deaf.
Henry Ford forgot to put the reverse gear in the first car he made. Do you consider these people failures? They succeeded in spite of problems, not in the absence of them. But to the outside world, it appears as though they just got lucky.
All success stories are stories of great failures. The only difference is that every time they failed, they bounced back. This is called failing forward, rather than backward. You learn and move forward. Learn from your failure and keep moving.
|Joke of the day|
|Student: What’s infinity?
Math Teacher: Think of a number.
Student: Okay, I’ve got one.
Teacher: Good. That’s not it.
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|Thought of the day – Deal Better with Hard Times|
|Write It Out
Did you ever write a nasty e-mail when you felt angry but then deleted it? Chances are you still felt better though you didn’t send it.
If you’ve suffered an upsetting event, writing about it can actually make you feel better. That’s in part because writing organizes your thoughts, which makes the experience feels less chaotic. Writing also can offer you an emotional release, insight into yourself and the feeling that you can file the problem away.
Some thoughts to get started writing:
· Set aside 15 minutes a day for a few days to write about the event and how it made you feel
· Don’t worry about grammar or artistry. This is just for you.
· Stick with it. At first writing about an upsetting experience may be painful, but over time it can help you get past the upset..
Tackle Your Problems
If you’re dealing with a stressful situation, don’t stew in self-pity or waste energy pointing blame at someone else. That just makes you feel less powerful. Instead, it makes sense to:
· Write down the problems involved. On paper they may seem more manageable than swirling in your head.
· List as many solutions as possible. For now, silence your internal judge. You can reject options later.
· Assess your list. Try asking yourself how you’d like this situation to end. Which options likely will get you there? You also can weigh pros and cons.
· Accept reasonably good solutions. Research suggests that searching for a perfect option breeds disappointment.
· Once you pick some solutions, break them into reasonable chunks and make a concrete plan. You might set yourself some specific deadlines too.
· Don’t get discouraged if the first solution you try doesn’t pan out. Try another one on your list.
You can read more problem-solving tips and find a worksheet to get you organized http://www.heretohelp.bc.ca/skills/module4.
How you think about a problem affects both how much it upsets you and how well you tackle it. I possible, it pays to shift your mind away from negative thoughts or excessive worries. Try these suggestions:
· Ask yourself how realistic your worry is. Our imaginations can take us into situations that may never develop.
· Set aside "worry" time each day. Then whenever a negative thought intrudes, tell yourself to wait until the set time. You may feel better by then.
· Focus on the good aspects of your life.
· Look at tough times as an opportunity to learn, grow or improve your situation. Maybe you’ve seen how supportive your friends are or learned how strong you can be in a tough time.
For more suggestions on reframing your thoughts, see the Live Your Life Well Stay Positive tool.
Sometimes some basic help can make a big difference.
· Ask someone to give you a hand with any pressing tasks if you’re overextended. You can reciprocate at a quieter time.
· Don’t be afraid to ask for advice. No one knows everything.
· Get emotional support. Crying, sharing your frustrations or otherwise venting can release tension, relieve stress and help you move on. Consider getting professional help if you need it.
|Joke of the day|
|“Do you believe in life after death?” the boss asked one of his employees.
“Yes, Sir,” the new employee replied.
“Well, then, that makes everything just fine,” the boss went on. “After you left early yesterday to go to your grandmother’s funeral, she stopped in to see you.”
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