Thought of the day – Choosing to Protect Your Peace of Mind and Happiness |
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| 1. Remind Yourself Every Morning and As You Move Through The Day. The conscious choice we must make every single day is to make our mindset a top priority and realize it’s not worth it to let anyone or anything interfere with it.
2. Unwind When Necessary. We’re human and so we may have an initial reaction when people do things they shouldn’t or a challenging situation happens. However, its important to not let ourselves get more and more worked up. Choose to not express any negative reactions and instead let them just rise to the surface. Don’t feed them with more negative energy. Give them time to evaporate. Push yourself to see the bigger picture or look at things from a different perspective. This practice is something we get better at and eventually you will be able to catch yourself before you even have an initial negative reaction. Also, if you need to unwind some more you can do other things you enjoy and turn your complete attention to those – walking, reading, meditating, listening to music or spending time with your favorite people. |
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| Brain teaser of the day | ||||
| 1.How many apples can you fit into an empty box? 2. Why is it illegal to bury a man living in South Carolina in North Carolina? Answers for the last teaser: |
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| Have a great day!
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Month: July 2013
DWD: “Every time you get angry, you poison your own system. ” ~ Alfred A.Montapert
| Thought of the day – How to deal with anger? | ||||
| Take a time out – Sometimes the best option is to remove ourselves from an angry situation. Take time to calm down and decrease your arousal. The angrier we become the more difficult it is to manage our reactions.
Decrease body tension – When we’re highly emotionally our body is also worked up. When we relax the body it usually helps calm the mind. Use exercise or other relaxation techniques to decrease body tension. A calm and relaxed body leads to greater equanimity. Write about your feelings – If you struggle to express anger in a healthy manner it’s helpful to get your thoughts out on paper. Get a journal to write about your feelings. When we verbalize our feelings it takes us out of our emotional mind so we can think more logically. Work on developing a positive attitude – Think about the last time you had a bad day. How much easier was it to get ticked-off when you were already in a bad mood? When we’re always in a state of frustration or negativity even the smallest things can set us off. Practice gratitude and focus on being more optimistic to add some positivity to your life. Self-talk – What you say to yourself will determine how you feel and act. Become aware of the self-talk that pervades during angry situations. You might notice that your own thinking is the main trigger to your anger. Angry thoughts lead to angry feelings. Consider some reminder statements that can help you calm down and take control of your emotions. “I can handle this.” “Calm down.” “I have a lot to lose if I lose my temper.” “Getting angry not’s worth it.” Don’t take responsibility for other people’s actions – The only person we can control is ourselves. We can’t change what someone else does, no matter how stupid they may be acting. Sometimes we try to use our anger to get what we want by intimidating or threatening, but eventually this will backfire. Don’t let other people steal your joy or dictate your reactions. You have a choice in how you respond to others. Learning to express our anger in a healthy manner is crucial for our emotional and physical well-being. If you notice your angry reactions are causing you problems, use some of these ideas to get your personal power back. Don’t let your life circumstances or other people take control of your feelings and actions. Source: http://shakeoffthegrind.com/emotional-health/how-to-stop-anger-from-taking-over-your-life |
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| Brain teaser of the day | ||||
| 1. I have four legs but no tail. Usually I am heard only at night. What am I?
2. Until I am measured Answers for the last teaser: |
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| Have a great day!
Regards, |
DWD: “You cannot truly listen to anyone and do anything else at the same time.” ~ M.Scott Peck
| Thought of the day – What Good Is Listening Anyway? | |||||
| We’re taught to think that listening is passive, and speaking is active. But the best listeners know this is far from the truth. Truly listening to, and understanding, someone else requires just as much proactive engagement as speechifying – maybe more.
I’ve observed that good listeners set themselves apart with a few key habits. These behaviors come naturally to some, but they can be practiced or developed by anyone. Here are a few tips to consider: 1. Be fully attentive. To listen well, clear distractions. One common trait of all good listeners is that they make you feel like they have the time, attention, and focus to deal with the conversation directly in front of them. 2. Use the 80/20 rule. In an advisory or management capacity, seek to listen 80% and speak 20% of the time. Of course, there are instances when the 80/20 rule is not practical, but it still can act as a reliable self-awareness monitor. It’s an easy indicator of whether you’re really listening or not. 3. Seek clarification. Think of a conversation as a way to gather more and better information and keep the client talking. Ask questions like, “What else can you tell me about that?” or “What other possibilities have you considered?“ – open-ended questions that probe for greater detail. The more you know, the more informed your solutions. Good listeners make you feel like they have the time, attention, and focus to deal with the conversation. 4. Summarize and paraphrase. It’s amazing the cognitive distance that can be created by our individual perceptions. A great skill of listening is the ability to quickly summarize the other party’s thoughts to clarify what you’re hearing. Start with, “What I heard you say was…” and see in real-time if you’re accurately listening or not. 5. Listen for what’s NOT being said. Are there unspoken emotions arising that you can pick up on via body language or tone? Do you notice any hidden assumptions that might be a logjam? Having a sense for what emotionally motivates a person’s communication can help you to operate above the “noise” and address what really matters. 6. Absorb all ideas before editorializing. It’s human nature to be awed by our own brilliance. Before you give your ideas, be sure you’ve heard theirs. Don’t try to fix things too early. The great paradox is that the less you talk, the more brilliant you become! Source: http://99u.com/articles/7012/what-good-is-listening-anyway |
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| Brain teaser of the day | |||||
| 1. Johnny’s mother had three children. The first child was named April. The second child was named May. What was the third child’s name? 2. A clerk at a butcher shop stands five feet ten inches tall and wears size 13 sneakers. What does he weigh? 3. Before Mt. Everest was discovered, what was the highest mountain in the world? 4. Billie was born on December 28th, yet her birthday always falls in the summer. How is this possible? |
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| Have a great day!
Regards, |
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DWD: “It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.” ~ Aristotle Onassis
| Thought of the day – How to Start Over When Your Life Feels Shattered | |||
| When you’re down and life seems like it’s giving you a kick in the gut, please remember these four things:
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing has meaning besides the meaning you choose to give it. It’s up to you to make each incident empowering or disempowering. And it’s up to you to find the lesson in everything. For instance, if I didn’t step down from my management position at the club, I would not be where I am with my business today. Living my dream. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.You don’t have to suffer. It’s definitely a choice. Nothing lasts forever, including the pain you are in. So, experience it. Live in that moment. But then get out of the story you’re starting to create. There does not need to be any mental drama around it (i.e. “I will never find a job again.”) As one of my mentors, Marie Forleo, says, “Make ISness your business.” Live in the current moment and know that’s the only moment you need to handle. Give it your full attention. It’s your reality. And when that moment is over, move to the next moment. Are you still breathing? Of course you are. Then, fabulous, you’ve just handled that moment. Are you ready for the next one that will bring you one step closer to engaging in your life again? Take one day at a time. I know it sounds like a cliché, but it’s TRUE! Eat nourishing food. Exercise. Spend time with your friends. Do what has to be done TODAY—not tomorrow, not next week. I promise you that if you live one day at a time, you will secretly find yourself moving on! |
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| Brain teaser of the day | |||
| No teaser today! Will post one in the next. Answers for the last riddle is: It takes 3 hours for the friends to meet; so the pigeon flies for 3 hours at 18 MPH = 54 miles. |
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| Have a great day!
Regards, |
Day with a Difference 